But there’s more to that: “And you still act like you’re in freshman year.” … which is a completely accurate description of how 23 has been for me.
Today’s the end of that. I’m glad 2014 is over. I’m glad that tomorrow I’ll be 24. It’s been a rough year. But I’ve accomplished a lot! I’ve graduated college, gotten a full-time job with benefits, went to a stuttering convention (what even!), had 7 cavities filled and a broken filling replaced all within a few hours… but I’ve made a lot of personal changes too. More than anything, I’ve learned that I have no idea how to handle things in a healthy and effective way. I’m starting to.
Here are 23 things I learned this year. Enjoy.
(PS: The pictures look best through Chrome Browser haha)
- Starbucks is life. When you’re out of the house 12 hrs a day / 5 days a week, at least.
- You can’t fix everything or everyone.
- It’s OK to hold onto people and things too long if you need, but it’s better to let go.
- Commutes are painful, but man, is it ample reading time. Make the most of it.
- Letting go of toxic people is so freeing.
- People change and sometimes that change is awful. You can’t live in the past.
- Age stops mattering in the workplace if you work hard, act professional, and keep up.
- If someone doesn’t feel emotionally safe to be around, it’s OK to distance yourself – no matter how much they “act” like a good friend.
- Not everyone matures. Not everyone matures quickly. Be patient with those whom you love and are good.
- Have hard talks. Be assertive. Ask for what you want. You’re not a bad person for demanding respect.
- Looking cute is actually really fun.
- You owe yourself happiness, love, and freedom. No person is going to give it to you.
- It’s good to tell your secrets to those you love, but it’s best to tell them only to those who make you feel safe.
- How to apply lipstick. (Thanks, Delaine.)
- Walk heel first. Not flat foot. That’s why your hamstrings muscles are so tight, you big goof.
- You don’t need to be so hard on yourself. You’re young. You’re full of mistakes you’ll still make. These will be some of them.
- Never apologize for expressing your needs, wants, or creative dreams. Ingrain this into your soul. The world should not be sorry for your wonderful and unique experience.
- There’s bad, but the good is good.
- A year isn’t inherently “good” or “bad.” Take things day by day.
- Open your heart a little more, even when you’re sober.
- Take all the selfies you want, even right before graduation. You’ll thank yourself later.
- Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.
- People are often more forgiving than you think. Ask for forgiveness.
What have you learned this year?